Q. We love our adopted son very much and we don’t want him to be hurt by disclosing his background. Are we doing the right thing?
You love your child and there is nothing wrong with wanting to protect him. However, secrets are detrimental to healthy development of individuals, couples, and families. Telling your son he is adopted is essential to his well-being. This should be done according to his age and his environment. The sooner it begins, the better it will be. At the age of 6, he will be able to comprehend simple ideas about adoption. Always tell him how important he is to your life. This is something you should carry on throughout his life. It is also good to make the adoption process transparent to your family as well as to your friends. Sooner or later, it should also be made known to his teachers. In this way, the child will find it easy to accept the fact. When he is more articulate, you can prepare him to deal with difficult people and situations. Teach him how to answer and how to respond. The more you create awareness about adoption, the more comfortable each of you will become. May you and your child pass on the good news of adoption!
Q. We are so busy with our careers that we do have the time or the inclination to have a baby through childbirth. Is it ok to experience the joy of parenthood through adoption in this case?
There are many good reasons to adopt a child. Infertile couples usually consider adoption their last option, but today more couples are choosing adoption because they want to meet the emotional needs of both the adults and the children. However, you need to consider a number of things before you go down the road to adoption:
- Are you fully exposed to the facts and knowledge about adoption?
- Do you understand the laws related to adoption?
- What are the attitudes of your family members towards adoption?
- Are you financially and psychologically committed to the future expenses?
- Is what you are doing in the interest of the well-being of the adopted child and each member of your family?
- How do you prepare your family for adoption and future plans?
- How do you get support and resources from others in case of need? Look for an adoption counselor and start your new journey!